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I was not sure where to put this. But my husband and I have decided to not have any more little ones and we have decided on a vasectomy for him as if we ever did want to have any more babes this procedure has a better chance of being reversed.

My question is; Has anyone else's family decided to go this routh? And, if so what Dr. do you go through?

HELLO, MY HUSBAND AND I HAVE 4 CHILDREN AND WE DECIDED TO GO THIS ROUTE 2 YEARS AGO. THIS MAY SOUND FUNNY BUT EVERYONE WE KNEW RECOMMENDED THE VASWEB GUY. YOU KNOW THE ONE ON THE BILLBOARD ON I-4. GREAT DOCTOR. THIS IS ALL HE DOES. IT IS THE LASER PROCEEDURE, NOT CUT, NO STICHES, I WATCHED THE PROCEEDURE, IT TOOK A WHOLE 6 MINUTES, AND MY HUSBAND WALKED OUT, NO PROBLEMS. HE SAYS HE WAS A LITTLE UNCOMFORTABLE FOR ABOUT A DAY AND A HALF. HE HAD TO WEAR A SUPPORT FOR A COUPLE OF DAYS. NO SEX, UNTIL YOU GET CLEARED. HE DOES HAVE TO "PRODUCE" 20 TIMES BEFORE YOU GO IN TO HAVE IT CHECKED FOR "SWIMMERS". AFTER THAT YOUR FREE AND CLEAR. THE ONE THING MY HUSBAND THOUGHT WAS A HOOT, WAS HE DID MAKE ME "PRODUCE" IT UNTIL HE WAS CLEARED. HA-HA.

My hubby and I went to the same guy. He is really nice and easy. FYI....it is very important for your husband to eat before the proceedure. My dear hubby was to nervous, I kept telling him to eat, buy he opted not to and puked like craxy! The reason they tell you to eat first is because of the stong antibiotics.

We have been talking about this as well going back and forth about who should get "fixed" I am also thinking about an IUD but not real sure.

The I-4 billboard Dr. is the one my husband thought to use and definately wanted it with no cutting, laser only. I am sure he will like having me do the "producing" part as well. This made me laugh so hard. I am glad you went to this Dr. Do you remember the website? Thanks for your help.

My husband had one in the middle of the 2nd and 3rd hurricanes of 2004. He had a bit of extended recovery time but all has been well and we wouldn't do it any differently! The freedom it brings can't be compared to alternatives and comparatively speaking from the woman having her "tubes tied" to the man having the vasectomy, the surgery time, recovery time, as well as all the other hormonal issues a woman faces over time in general it's far better all around for the man to have the procedure than the woman. Not to mention, it is far easier for the man to reverse the process than the woman, if that should be a future issue.

I'll share a funny story with you, well, my husband can laugh now, but then, not so much---

Mine was lying up in bed all ice packed up and I'd decided to make a nice steak, potato, etc. dinner for the poor baby, right? I was broiling the steak with a touch of olive oil and yummy spices and it was just about done but had maybe another two minutes.

Well, all of a sudden, I see flames (YES, flames) shooting out from the oven door upward!!

I ran in to my husband asking "Does flour put out an oil fire?" He said thinking on it hesitantly, "Well, I..." I cut him off and said, "NO, I'm not asking for the future, the oven's on fire!" and ran back out to try flour.

Well, he realized it wasn't just a casual question and jumped up from bed flinging his ice pack clear around the room, slipping in the master doorway. Oh, goodness, I can still see the pain shoot across his face.

Ladies, I have to say, I just began grabbing a bag from the fridge without reading the label. I threw what I thought was flour onto the fire which then did something odd.....It caramelized onto the oven, oven door, and stove top.

If you haven't guessed, it was sugar! What a mess I had. Here I was trying to care for my poor baby husband and tend his wounds with a nice steak dinner.

I think we ended up just getting pizza all around in the end.

I tried!!

As for the surgery itself, it was very short and I think he'd have healed well had it not been for the leap out of bed the afternoon of to see what worked on an oven fire.

We called for a consult and was told it'd be another 3.5 months! Then the surgery would be another 3 months from then. 6.5 months in total. So, think about it, get referrals, go for the consult, etc. Whatever you do, once you decide, realize it may take time. I told the doctor I'd end up pregnant again if we waited any longer! lol

Oh, and don't mess with the post-op wait time either. I've heard of pregnancies happening following the surgery before the husband went for the post-op "check" or husband not going back at all!!

Anyway, we didn't use a billboard doctor.

Good luck!


Michelle

i believe the website is vasweb.com. he has an office here in lakeland i believe it is off edgewood. he does surgeries here once a month on saturdays. i got the phone number in the phone book. we did go to the tampa office to get it done. once my husband decided to do it, i wasn't waiting long enough for him top change his mond.

Hi Michelle, Thanks for the story I can only imagine how my husband would react. I definately agree it is a less invasive procedure for them than the wifes, especially if you did not decide to get your tubes tied after your last child. I already have huge hormonal problems that effect my daily life quite often so I do not need anything else to encourage my body. What Dr. did you use?

Thanks 1tired mommy I will look the website up with my hubby. Funny, For over a year we have went back in forth about having another child - he did not want any more and I did, how do you compromise on that? Anyway he would always point to that billboard and tease me that he was going to call and do it without me, not funny to me but funny now since we have decided to go ahead with it - just seems like fate.

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Originally posted by NancyT:
Hi Michelle, Thanks for the story I can only imagine how my husband would react. I definately agree it is a less invasive procedure for them than the wifes, especially if you did not decide to get your tubes tied after your last child. I already have huge hormonal problems that effect my daily life quite often so I do not need anything else to encourage my body. What Dr. did you use?

Yes, Nancy, I agree that if the wife is choosing to have a procedure it would be far easier to do at the time of their final birth.

However, for us, our second son was an emergency caesarean and there wasn't time to consider it. Also, even though during our difficult pregnancy we knew he was our last, we didn't want to make that type of decision in the middle of a HIGHLY stressful, anxiety ridden, emotional time, but wait for life to settle down thereafter. Afterward, he stepped up and was perfectly fine having the procedure no resistance or complaints in the least.

Actually, he suggested it to begin with. He felt that after what we went through, especially myself, having our two sons, it was his turn - all the benefits (with very little risk and far less to that of procedures for women) to a vasectomy vs anything else can't be compared, really.


Michelle

Absolutely agree, we were in the same boat or I should say I was because I was just not ready to make that final decision at my second son's birth. It was My hubsands idea as well which at first I took negatively like he was trying to push me into not having any more children but now I feel he was just offering when the time came.

I’ve been waiting to post on this. I could write a book on this alone, but will try to keep it brief. I waited to ask hubby if he was okay with me sharing his boy business-lol- I’m an open book and will tell you anything-hubby on the other hand is not that way. He did give me the go ahead.

Eddy had a vasectomy. He didn’t want to. I had to literally take him kicking and screaming. I was tired of doing birth control- I wanted to be man made hormone free. I gave Eddy the option of us using condoms for the rest of our lives- which he hates and that is how Lilly got here, or have the procedure. I know and have heard of even more women that have had major complications from “tube tying”. I kind of felt like, “I have been making the babies here, it is your turn to endure.”


Neither of us wanted to have more kids. I was feeling like a baby making factory as was. At the time of Eddy’s procedure I was 6 months pregnant with Lillian.

Lillian was not a planned baby so this was all the more incentive for us to do this while pregnant plus we thought we would get all the sperm out of his system before I delivered. Boy was I wrong on that!

When Eddy walked out a very short time later, I thought he chickened out and didn’t have it done. He did, I checked the incision sites just to make sure. It seems the procedure was very fast!

Eddy saw Dr. Wilson at Watson Clinic. We have a lot of family and friends who have used him with good results.

As far as getting pregnant after a vasectomy- through our experience I can see how this could happen. Thank God I never did, but it took Eddy WELL OVER A YEAR for him to make a negative sperm read. Eddy had the procedure done in April of 2006 he did not come back negative until Dec of 2007- so just a few months ago!

To be legally sterile you have to have a total of 2 negative reads. After at least 10 samples, the last one finally came up negative. So technically Eddy isn’t even considered sterile yet with out that second final read!

The doctor said Eddy’s experience is very rare.

Ah, Shawn, over a YEAR!!!!!!??????? I am surprised you didn't conceive again. WOW! Eddy has some potent stuff there. I had to, come on!



Eddy ain't the only one keeping that info close to the hip! lol I had to, come on! I ran it all by mine for approval, too.


Michelle

NOW I'M NERVOUS. WOW. A YEAR, REALLY?

No really, I am serious. At the one year mark the doctor said that is not unusual at all. Then when we went way over the year mark, he said okay, now you are a freak,lol.

I think we were jinxed because everyone made fun of us before the procedure that Eddy would go back on the first trip and be empty. I think you all know what I am implying here?

The theory is the more times the male ejaculates, the faster all the productive sperm will get out. I know it sounds like Eddy and I didn't have any "visits" hardly in that year and a half, but that is far from the truth.

Honestly, I can not see how I could get pregnant after all this time, but I still feel nervous that Eddy never got his clear from the doctor

I have heard stories of men fathering children years after a vasectomy. Have any of you every heard valid stories like this?