This was a viable topic at our house.

You really have to be careful who you tell your baby names to. It happened to me.

I always thought if I ever had a little girl I would name her Catherine Elizabeth. Apparently I was too vocal; it ended up being the name of my 5 year old niece.

Has anyone ever snatched your baby names?

I argued with hubby about Ryan's name the whole time I was pregnant and almost left the hospital with him unnamed. I finally gave up and told Hubby to name him what he wanted, and he did! Ryan Edward was of hubby's choosing.

Did you argue with your partner on a baby name?

If you are still trying to decide on a name; this article gives scenarios and tips below

http://pregnancy.about.com/od/babynames/a/arguebabynames.htm

With our first daughter, we had no problems with the naming process. I always wanted a girl named Hayley Ann, and my hubby ended up liking my choice.

However, when I was pregnant the second time, we were really having a hard time with the naming process. We had the boy name picked out (from last time), but we couldn't agree on a girl name. Then we found out beforehand that we were having another girl! I wanted names that were normal, but not really common. Course, after Hayley was born, I've met more and more Hayley's (or Haley, Hailey, etc)! We narrowed it down to four names: I liked Audrey and Brianne (Breanne, Breanna, Brianna, etc); hubby liked Sidney; and Hayley liked Savannah. I didn't like hubby's choice as well, and he didn't like either of my choices as well. So, we decided to go with Hayley's preferance so that she could be a part of the whole experience. When she started preschool, her first friend was named Savannah. My hubby said he was picking the middle name, and so we ended up naming her Savannah Grace.

Course, since she was born, I have also met/heard of more and more Savannah's! Once she was born, I loved the name--we all did. Nobody ever "stole" our names, at least not on purpose. We have a couple of friends/acquaintences that have named their daughters Sidney (hubby's original choice), but we never told them it was one of our choices. As far as I know, I never "stole" a name from a friend, either.

The naming process is a fun, yet hair-pulling, experience! There are a lot of things to consider, which I didn't do the first time. I knew what I wanted and named her accordingly. However, the second time, I really thought about it (probably too much). What does the name mean? Is it too common or too unusual? Will it fit a baby as well as an adult? Just crazy questions like that we all ask ourselves!

Just a side note--in addition to looking thru baby name books, there are also books on what NOT to name your baby. Those are kind of funny. I did look at one, but I still like my daughter's names anyway!

we had a hard time picking out names also. we didn't know what we were having, but my husband was sure it was going to be a boy. so he had 2 boy names all picked out and didn't bother to listen to the girl names i really liked. well when the big day came out came my girl. i was sooooo excited we could use one of my names i picked out. but our problem was witch one. i had 3 i loved. so while we were calling our relatives we tooke votes on the most loved name. and i can't remember if brooke was the most loved name but thats the one i finally chose. and my husband chose the spelling because i would have left the E off the end. and i told him i absolutly loved olivia for the middle name. so thats what we went with. our only problem was my husbands cousin who had a baby 6 months after ours also named hers brooke. and to this day it still bothers me to a point that at family functions there are 2 brookes almost the same age.

Oh yes this was a thing Of cntention in our home, My Husband wanted your everyday Biblica Names Michael , Matthew and such ( nothing wrong with the names to me but a tad to common) so Hubby Liked Ryan..which was not bad ,better then the Michael and Matthew, but still i was not a 100% i would throw all these Less Common Names out to him, nope nope nope, then about a week before i gave birth I blurted out How about Travis James and we can call him TJ , he said ok , and that was that .. of course we dropped the Tj about a month after he was born because i really like the Name Travis,,But Now Our 5 yr old wants to be called TJ...LOL

Picking the name for our soon to be child hasn't been to difficult although it is much different that I thought it would be. My husband and I did have some ground rules...no names already in the family, no cross gender names, no "country names," no names with negative affliations (I could never name my child Victoria because of an elementary school classmate), no names too common. The last snag was our last name, Graham. Husband's coworkers actually started a list of potential Baby Graham names, like Sona Graham, Candy Graham, Milli Graham...etc. These were out of the question as well.

I happen to like my husband's choice for a boys name, but since we are having a girl, we actually had work to do.

We wound up sitting at Lakeside Village at BookAMillion with a baby name book and started reading off names. We have settled on Jayda Lillian. The first name is more contemporary and the middle name is just beautiful and grounded. Now I wasn't happy to see that Jayden is a top pick for boys names but by the time I found this out, we had gotten used to called the baby by her name...best laid plans and all that...

Gloria, I LOVE the name Lillian! I guess that could be because I am a bit partial to my own Lillian

I love Jayda. I considered Jade for a name for my little miss, but you can read why I couldnt go with that in my upcoming blog entry. This thread inspired me to write a blog on dh and my naming of our children. I will let you know in this thread when that blog posts.

I am so glad that you are considering no cross gender names. I complain to my parents for naming me Shawn

PS Gloria, love your list!!!!!

okay ladies, my blog posted tonight, you will be able to read my battle with my husband of naming my son Ryan. You can catch it on the blog tab or click the link below. I hope you enjoy the story

http://polkmomsblog.theledger.com//

Well I have never had anyone take my baby names. As far as my first daughters name my husband went right with the name i picked out. Her name is Sharyn Mariska and we call her Mariska. Sharyn was my aunts name that I was really close to and she passed away. mariska is off of law and order SVU. I don't want my kids to have common names but not to off the wall. We argued over the boys name.Everything I picked my husband said no. He finally picked Daltyn Wade. Dalton is common so I said I would spell it with a y. With this baby girl her name will be Makyela Serenity. My husband wasn't big on Serenity but wants are kids to have close names. He finally agreed he likes it. If we had a boy this time his name would have been Camden Wade. So we only agrued over boys names really.

My husband and I tried to conceive for a while and some of our friends knew. We went to Las Vegas for a wedding and those friends teased us that if we conceived in Vegas we had to name the child after the town.

It ended up being almost two years later that we did conceive and when we found out it was a girl, the name just stuck. Her name is Vegas Brianna because wanted an Irish middle name.

I still have not met another Vegas, but two of the nurses at the OBGYN department at Watson Clinic have said theye were going to use it when they had a baby. One was actually pregnant at the time so I should give her a call...hehe. I think I just came up with the baby name noone wanted to steal.

Cindy, the name Vegas is cool and unique, I like it!

I have heard of people stealing names like that outright, Shawn, but more often I've noticed where people (family or friends) choose names so similar as to sound the same phonetically and be confusing. Either way, I think it's often just competitiveness coming out, sadly enough. And that really is sad your other favorite girl's name was snatched out from under you.

But then, Lillian is such a beautiful name, I can't help but think it was meant to be hers.

guitarjee, thank you, and you are right, I do think my Lillian is a Lillian, I can't imagine her anything else. Plus in the end hubby wouldnt have been happy with Catherine with it's lack of "N" ending.

rschmolljr - Mariska is very pretty. I love Law and Order SVU!

gloria,

Thank you for sharing your handwritten list. That's funny. And I like Jada and Jayden, too. yes, once you get used to a name, it's hard to change or go back. We have a cousin who was told the entire pregnancy from only one sonogram that she was having a girl. Only to find out the day of delivery from another sonogram that she was to be a he. Thankfully, they did have a boy's name picked out as well.

rschmolljr-

I really like your names. While unique in spelling! Fun. I always liked Makeyla, too. I haven't heard Dalton all too much in a long time now. Maybe it's on the way back???

VegasMom, I love that your daughter has a "story" to her and her name. That's the fun of children we think - that each and every one of us has our own individual story from how we came to be to how we came to be named!

Shawn and TJsMom,
Isn't it funny how it works that way.....We take great and sometimes painstaking efforts at naming our children only to realize they so fit what we come up with in the end anyway, like Lillian and then TJ wanting to be called that on his own accord! BTW, Shawn,I think it's cool that your husband wanted a family tradition of having "n" endings. Very sweet!


Also wanted to add that we had 5 sets of friends as well as my husband's cousin and both my sisters pregnant at the SAME time as us (and more than once!!) - some delivered within anywhere from 2 days to 2 months of us as well. But, none of us came up with the same names as most, if not all, of us used family names or those meaningful in one way or another to our own lives. But, it was interesting there for a while to see what everyone was coming up with.

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guitarjee, thank you, and you are right, I do think my Lillian is a Lillian, I can't imagine her anything else. Plus in the end hubby wouldnt have been happy with Catherine with it's lack of "N" ending.

rschmolljr - Mariska is very pretty. I love Law and Order SVU!

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I know what you mean Shawn, I could not imagine my children having other names than what they do either. I was lucky, all mine were born first on both my side and my husband's side of the family, I never had to worry about sharing a name to have it stolen out from under me, but as I've found out many times, even some things we might see as negatives in the beginning, (such as the name you'd chosen being taken before you had the chance) turn out better for you in the end anyway. Now, I do have some distant cousins that share children's names so similar I have to think one of the Moms copycatted or competitively did it on purpose, which I don't think that kind of competitiveness is healthy in the end. And I know it had to bother the one whom it was copytcatted from.

My firstborn was named after a horse, don't laugh, (Morgan) and also because I thought it such a strong name. My second child with my husband now, was named after my beloved, now deceased Grandmother, Tabitha, and my son shares his Dad's name and his Grandpa's, and is actually John V, but we call him Buddy, much like his Dad and Grandpa were called by nickname.

I will say there are some beautiful names in the family, both sides.

But I do feel badly for those who've inadvertantly had to share or who've had to deal with copycats, or who've had a favorite name outright stolen, but I think when we choose to look for the good in things, all things do eventually work out better in the end for us. I've had to make lemonade out of lemons many times in life, but it's been some of the difficult things I've done that have made me the happiest later, and some of the things I've thought were bad in the beginning have turned out to be blessings in disguise, perhaps long down the road, but still. In the end result, other people can only "steal" one's happiness, if we give that away by choice, and even hurtful things done to us, can be transmuted if we so choose. As your daughter's lovely name, for example, eloquently proves.

But as humans, we rarely forget when wronged, even if we forgive, remembering is our way of protecting ourselves.