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Does anyone know of one that is Receptive to TTC after 40? it use to be Taboo to even talk about it, Ihave a decent Dr now who is Receptive to it, but the waiting time in his office is just way to long ( i might chicken out if i wait there to long)
I really would like to have another Child, Am i being to selfish? because i want a child so that my son does'nt grow up as a only child?
So many things run thru my head everymonth that i get My period a am I too Old?? Is it not In Gods plan , am i that bad of a mother ..?
I just need a good kick in the rear to make an appt with a dr (even if i have to wait for 3 hours in the office)...
Thanks ladies

Amanda, it is a big decision to conceive again no matter your age, but with the age range you mentioned there are certainly other considerations. When pregnant with Lillian I was considered "older" being over 30.

It sounds like you have it figured out with the need to talk to a doctor. I think that is the best route to go. Discuss the ins and outs with professionals.

In my opinion, if you are still having your monthly then your body is telling you, you still have eggs and you are still in your baby making years. It is just up to that mom whether they want to be chasing baby as an older mom.

Before birth control, moms had babies until menopause.

Also in my opinion, I do not think 40 is old!

Good luck to you, keep us updated!

I go through the same thing sometimes with having only one child. I am in my early 30's so I think I am not too old, but then again I think I am the oldest parent compared to the majority of her friends. I do feel bad that she doesn't have any siblings. I worry if something would happen to her dad & I, she would have no one. I also worry that she will have no one to share the burden if she has to take care of us when we are older. On the other hand, if I was to get pregnant tomorrow, there would be almost a 10 year age difference between the two. Could siblings really be close with that huge age gap?

I don't know, it's all hard choices and no right answers really.

i think it is up to the children how close they really want to be. i am 12 years older than my half brother and my sister is 9 years older than him. and we were really close until we moved out of state. i also have to say he is a teenager now so i think that makes a diffrence on the closeness also. my opinion is if you want to have another child then go for it. don't think too much about the age gap. every child and family is diffrent, but i wouldn't force the kids to be close, they will rebell and chose not to be.

Rella123, my husband is the youngest of a total of 4 children (3 surviving). His oldest sister was 15 years older than hubby, his brother is 11 years older and his sister is 7 years older than him. My husband's brother, sister and him are so close and as adults, they do get to share so many joys and burdens together. And it is cute, sometimes the big brother 11 years older calls little brother for advice, it is so sweet!

In my house I have an 18 year old and two 12 year olds. They LOVE their little brother and sister. Ryan is almost 4 and Lilly is almost 2. Big age span between the groups.

I think with my older kids their age gives them the chance to absorb and appreciate those little one relationships. They love being big brothers, teaching and playing with the little ones.

I also think my older children enjoy going through holidays like Easter and Christmas because we cater it around the little ones. Although the Easter bunny and the Santa gig is all knowing to the older boys, they get the perks and fun of it still because we have the little ones to consider. I could go on and on, I think it is so positive to have sibling relationships and I am glad that my children do, but I don’t fault those that have only one child.