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I wanted to get some feedback. I've had a lot of people on me about potty training Lilly.

She turned 2 not even 2 weeks ago!

I have made it known that she is my last baby and maybe deep down it's a problem with me to give up the diapers knowing she will be a big girl. I'm not ready to give up my baby!

I have been looking around and seeing children a little older than Lillian potty trained already but most of them are daycare children.

My question is:

Are daycare children easier to potty train because they have that extra support system in place at daycare?

Do you think daycare children are preassured or are more expected to be potty trained?

Do you think daycare children are potty trained earlier?

Have any of you felt preassure to potty train to prepare your child for a 3 year old preschool setting?

Just an observation on my part, maybe it could be just the group I am looking at?

I know how you feel.
I wanted Lacie (2 1/2) to be trained by the time the other baby got here, yea right, what was I thinking?
It is true all kids are different. She has no interest in the potty. Now I think if she were in a daycare setting she would be. But I don't want her to go to daycare just yet. ($)
I read in a book, just because someone started potty training at 18 months doesn't mean they are out of the diapers any sooner. They just trained longer!
They say girls are usually fully trained by 3 1/2. Boys a little longer. That means not sleeping in a diaper and they go to the potty on they're own without us asking them every 15-20 minutes.
I learned to ignore everyone else that seems to be telling me or pushing me to do it.
I can't make her do it. I know she won't start 1st grade in diapers. LOL

My son turned three in April. He is pretty much potty trained now. He does have accidents every now and then. I do still put him to bed at night in a pull up. He can nap during the day without one and does fine, but sometimes still wets at night. He is in daycare. In fact we received a letter home from the daycare stating that they have to be potty trained to move up to the three year old class in August. Also that they would assist us in any way possible to help with this. It was very stressful to me to think my son may not be completely trained to go to the class. We were informed that there were no facilities to change soiled clothes in that class - the reason behind the need. I was actually kind of bother by that. So, what, he can't go if he's not? I do know that some day cares will not take children unless they are trained. It is a source of stress for me. I think he has done better because they are working on daily with them though. I still send extra sets of clothes just in case. Hoping that he continues to do well and doesn't back track with the new class, students, and teachers!

My daughter turned 2 in April and is completely "daytime" potty trained. She still wears pull-ups at night, although she makes it through 5 out of 7 nights without an accident (it's those 2 that keep us on our toes!).
She is in daycare, and I think that's helped encourage her some, but I think a lot of it just depends on when the individual child is ready to take that step. I was raised by a stay-at-home mom and was also potty trained before I turned 2. I think it's more our (my daughter and I) personalities than anything that made it go so fast. She's very headstrong and if she sees someone else doing something neat, she HAS to do it as soon as possible!
For those whose kids are 2 1/2 and 3 and aren't potty trained yet, I would say not to worry about it too much. For the most part, when they're ready they'll let you know and it will all be fine!

It depends on the day care. Some are more willing to change diapers/pull ups for older kids than others. My son wasn't fully potty trained at 3 and I did have some trouble finding summer camps that would take him. Side note...my daughter just started walking and did not talk yet when she started going on the potty at 19 months. That was one month after switching to cloth diapers. I think that did the trick. She hasn't been going on the potty lately and I really think it's because we are back in disposables do to frequent traveling this summer. It makes sense, because my son finally went on the potty after his teacher recommended we just put him in regular underwear and deal with the consequences. It worked!

This is exactly what I've been dealing with at my daughter's school. She just turned 3 in June and is not trained yet. She is beginning to go, but not regularly and is still very resistant. At her preschool, they go to the potty in groups and it scares her. She was actually beginning to go at home until this new development at school.
Her preschool told me the delay in sending her to the 3 year old room was her lack of using the potty. After some explaining to them that I thought their practices were partly responsible, and some discussion on our philosophy differences, they went ahead and moved her up and she is doing better. (the three year old room has it's own potty, so they can go alone or just with a teacher)
Every child is different and when I get frustrated (not with her, but with others who think that all 3 year olds should be potty trained or something is wrong with them) my mother keeps reminding me that "Every child that starts Kindergarten uses the potty, so she will too eventually."

Oh, and I agree with jmarr, at home I put her in just underwear and it makes a big difference. At school, they require pull-ups and I think that is re-inforcing her "laziness" in going to the potty.

Oh, the joys! Hayley doesn't have to be potty trained for preschool in the fall...I asked. But she will only be in a 2-year old class. She is READY to train, though. She has peed on the little potty quite a few times, and this weekend, she put the last nail in by confirming she knows when she is going to poop, and then doing so in the little potty. Unfortunately, we have both been bitten by a summer cold bug (ugh!), but by the weekend, we will be in serious potty training mode!

Just as I finished reading this thread, I heard her calling from her crib (where she was refusing to nap) "hep me mommy, hep me!" so I went in and found poop nuggets on the floor, smears on the sheets, and crusty fingernails. Joy.

oh mom2hayley, that has happened to me with Lillian. I am sooooo sorry. It took me a whole afternoon to clean her up and then her room. And you not feeling well on top of it all.

I admit I need help with this. My little boy is 17 months old and he signals that he is peeing in his diaper. So I think he might be ready. Does he have to sit though? He doesn't like to sit but he will stand and pee in the shower or anywhere if his diaper is off. Does that mean he really isn't ready? When do I switch sitting to standing? I have two older girls so that was much easier. Candy worked for them and one the older on figured out that she would get a skittle too, she would take the younger one all the time and remind her. What do I do with a boy?

Honestly, ladies?

1. Don't look at a calendar to determine when your child is ready. They might be 19 months old. They might be 3. Using the potty doesn't just magically happen when a child turns 2.

2. Don't let outsiders determine or pressure you into potty training your child. They aren't the parent. Tell them to mind their own business.

3. When the child starts to show interest, encourage them! When they aren't interested, don't push!

As for the rest? It's my opinion that the majority of kids who are potty trained in a "community" of other peers seem to get it faster. That could mean older siblings, or other kids at daycare.

As you guys know... there is so much more I could say. But that's the jist of it.

I feel every child is different when it comes to this subject. My daughter was the easiest person in the world to potty train and I feel extremely lucky for that. My boss' wife at the time told me when are you going to be ready to potty train her? I said I didn't think she was ready. She responded, when you are ready, she'll be ready. So here I go, I decided on her 2nd birthday, not to buy another diaper. That was it I was ready, and amazingly enough within a week, she was potty trained. No pull ups, no going to bed with a diaper, nothing, and it worked.
With that being said, 10 years later, my son is a different situation, I have tried on and off for the past year, he is now 3 1/2. I almost had him completely potty trained, with the help of his daycare. Then he started school in an ese program at an elementary school, within a day they had him back in pull ups and they were lazy, that is the only way to describe it. I confronted them many times, and I was told they are teachers, they did not have the time to do this. Well of course we went backwards.
Now he is back into daycare because school is out for the summer. Unfortunatley my 3 1/2 year old is in a 2 year old class because he is not potty trained, and we are starting over again. With the daycares help. Now I am afraid of whats going to happen in August when school starts again. He is the hardest child I have ever seen to potty train. I have tried everything. Unfortunately because I work and I do have to rely upon others, who may not be as persistant as I am, he may be starting kindergarten and still be in a diaper.

I wonder if Bizeemomma would rent herself out and come live with each of us for a short time to help potty train our kids? Hmmmm sounds good to me.

mimib-lol, that is a cute idea, the potty training super nanny!

I know where you are coming from, Bizeemomma has great tips and advice.

Thanks Bizeemomma, as always, for your time and posts. They are great!

Hmm... now there is an idea. I'm looking for a new job - gas prices are KILLING my budget (I work in BRANDON). Potty training nanny. I wonder what kind of market there is for that? LOL!